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The Enigma of the Female Body: Orgasm Equality (NSFW)
(This is semi-graphic, although it is an attempt at education, but please bear this in mind)
Recent studies have shown that women in heterosexual couples orgasm way less than the guys — as few as one for every three that their male partners have. This is complicated further by the fact that 86% of women in lesbian couples have orgasms most or all of the time. I don’t know if that is surprising to anyone, particularly people with vaginas, but if it is, maybe we need to look at some of the sexual constructs that uphold this crap — because we all deserve orgasms, don’t we?
Don’t get me wrong — this isn’t a big bash on men here — we know that women get stuff wrong too — but if porn has taught me anything — and well, real-life too, women have been conditioned to be givers, and our orgasm is secondary to that of the man’s pleasure. It’s totally true. I’ve had so many experiences that once the dude is done, the sex ends there without even a question of how that worked out for you. I think women have been conditioned to be passive about everything and not ask for what they want. I remember a guy saying to me, ‘sure, it’s normal women don’t cum every time, yeah?’ when I pointed out that I wanted more than one encounter a week with an orgasm at the end. That ‘relationship’ did not last very long, especially when the softest direction on…
