' Do they see their own reflection in a (male) incel?'

- that's a massive reach. I think, honestly, it's about incel's obsessiveness. Technically 'incels' are an extremist group and actually are the epitome of anti-feminism. It makes sense that they would be interested in it. It feels a bit like you're conflating lonely men with red pill angry men and twisting it on feminism. Like they're all different things. If anything the incels on the likes of Reddit are way more obsessed with feminism than anything.