Are We Dating the Same Guy?
The debate rages on
The ‘Are We Dating the Same Guy?’ seems to have become a recent phenomenon, where women have formed groups online to warn each other about abusive men or look for information on potential dates that seem to be already spewing red flags. These groups, primarily Facebook, have popped up everywhere, even in Ireland (where I am).
Online dating has definitely shaped the way that both men and women date, and let’s be honest, in many ways, it can be a more convenient way to get a date. The thing is, we don’t know these people from Adam; whether they have a current unknowing partner or a bad history. Women have been told repeatedly to be careful, so this is what these groups aim to do.
If you’re not completely aware of these groups, the aim is to post a screenshot of a man, a past relationship or a potential date. Posters are only allowed to share a first name but no specific identifiers. They either warn other group members with information relating to the man who they may have dated or know people who did (which can be confirmed or denied by others in the comments) or ask for some ‘tea’ about him. People chime in with whether they know him or not and whether he is lovely, looking for different things or whether he is in a relationship, abusive or does weird things on dates.
